i'm not sure what most people's first experience with sex is. i know it starts very early, 12 is the average age of kids who see their first pornographic material. with the world going in the direction it is, i'm sure that the age will decrease in the future. the cliche is that some kids are channel surfing and come across shows like "Baywatch" or certain music videos that have scantily clad pop "princesses" or maybe even stumbling upon the Discovery channel and seeing animals mating. all very likely, all have happened to me except the latter. watching animals doing it is more of deterrent.
the common theme is that most boys' switch the gear into puberty earlier because of images. we see body parts, it starts getting hot, and you feel desires that you've never felt before. next you feel is some guilt, like you've broken some kind of law or code, but it feels good and you want to keep feeling it. no matter what. you keep looking at the images. progresses deeper into pornography. that progresses into fetishes. some people may have a tighter rein on this than others. maybe you think you have a tighter rein on it than others. my question is, are we even supposed to be looking at it?
do animals watch other animals. are we the only species that watch people have sex? is it natural to watch it? it's natural to be stimulated by it. we can't help that. but is it natural to watch it as a form of entertainment or pleasure? is it natural for actors and actresses to simulate sex in films? is it natural for adult actors and actresses to perform in front of a camera for millions of viewers?
there are many things that aren't natural, i know. the laptop i'm typing on. am i supposed to be spending hours on the internet surfing the web reading about sports, movies, and whatnot? is it natural that i'm typing as a form of communication. well, we've taken language and communicated it into a different form. perhaps the same concept can translate with porn. but i don't believe that is a viable opinion.
sex is personal. it's an expression of love. of commitment. of marriage. of loyalty. Pope John Paul II said it best, "The problem with pornography isn't that it shows too much, it's that it shows too little." Pornography shows just what it promises. Two people having sex. But it's sex that's ripped out of the natural body of love. Sex isn't love or vice versa, it's a vital organ needed to keep the flesh and blood healthy and sane. when taken out of context it becomes disgusting, disturbing, and fake.
porn is a substitute for relationships. it adds to our isolation and we wonder why we are so lonely. we're afraid to take chances. to get rejected. we want acceptance in any way possible. and porn never turns us down, but it always lets us down. we're not meant to watch or look at these things. i pray that i have the faith to step out and take chances instead of settling for one part of a body. i want to experience it all and i hope you do, too.
